Grief is something that we all handle and deal with differently. Everyone has different "techniques" and there really is no set time that is standard across the board to measure "getting over something".
I'm the worst for dealing with it. I've been known to avoid dealing with something until it festers and affects my day to day life and relationships.
This is a hard entry. But writing really has and always will be how I deal. I may not be underneath a tree on my portable typewriter.... But writing is writing.
The last few years of my life have been tumultuous. I was in two domestically violent relationships, one of whom I had a child with, and lost several family members in a very short time span.
During all of this I lost the most important thing to me, my faith.
As bad thing after bad thing happened I grew to detest God. I blamed him for not putting a stop to it, for not making it better. Slowly but surely, our relationship strained until it broke down completely. Resulting in almost two years of silence. How easy it is to blame someone else for your negative experiences. Placing the blame on everyone but those at fault, including yourself.
At the tip of my fingers I had every tool imaginable to end my situation and move on but seemed stuck, transfixed in time.
I recognize the fact that I cannot get through this alone. So I've started attending group therapy workshops for women who have suffered at the hands of an abusive partner; both physically and mentally. It's like attending an AA meeting, we have to admit that we have had a problem and we need to make sure it never happens again. We need to learn and grow from our mistakes, stop blaming ourselves and feeling sorry for ourselves, and start on the path towards a bright and amazing future!
So I'm starting on the road to recovery. I'm sure my path isn't going to be easy, but when is it ever?
I'm simply grateful for those I have surrounded myself with - both friends and family! I'm blessed with some amazingly understanding and caring people in my life, and of course God!